Emotional Blackmail

Blackmail is a nasty thing. It is about exposing secrets. If you don’t give me what I want, I will expose your dirty little secret.

When you look at American traitors, spying for our advisories, you find that most, if not all of them, were bought off for dirt cheap.

What would happen is that the traitor would decide they needed something, generally money. They then tried to sell the information they had. They were offered very little for the information. Then they were blackmailed for having sold the information.

Blackmail is normally about hiding dirty little secrets.

Back when I had a security clearance, they were concerned about several things. Can you keep your mouth shut? Can you be blackmailed? Can you be bought?

When I was in debt, I explained that I was in debt and that my country was worth more to me than money ever could be. I showed that I had been paying my debt down and that I was not hurting financially. For that level of clearance, that was enough.

At another time, there was a personal issue. I went to my boss and told him the personal issue. I told my parents. When security asked about the personal issue, I could easily show that I couldn’t be blackmailed by it because I had told my boss, my parents, and them.

The gist of this is that if you can’t be embarrassed by your actions, you can’t be blackmailed by a dirty little secret.

History

My first wife was an expert in emotional blackmail. When we got married, I was informed that she had had her cat for longer than she had known me and that I would go before she would let go of the cat.

In other words, a cat was more important to her than the person she had just sworn to love.

I am allergic to most fur bearing critters. Cats in particular. My allergies started off bad, they are impossible now. Because we lived with a cat.

The most common refrain that still echos through my head was, “If you don’t do X, I’m going to leave.”

It was used over and over, again.

One night, I spent a long time talking to my father at a bar. This was unusual because mom was the emotional rock, not dad. Plus, we had never done it before, we didn’t do it again after.

I left that conversation and returned to the hotel room where my wife and kids were. I was more relaxed than I had been in years. I had come to the decision that I wasn’t going to be emotionally blackmailed anymore.

When we returned home, it was just about like normal. Until the day she said, “If you don’t do X, I’m going to leave.”

My reply rocked her to her soul and a bit further, “Ok, there’s the door.”

Our life became more of a partnership until her abuse became too much and I left.

Just what is “emotional blackmail”

It is anytime you attempt to control somebody with threats that engender strong emotional responses.

The person who is threatening to commit suicide is using emotional suicide. The person who withholds love unless you do your chores. The person who threatens to leave you if you don’t give them money.

All of these are emotional blackmail.

Peer pressure is a type of emotional blackmail. When you feel like you will be ostracized if you don’t go along with your peers.

Having that feeling of belonging is incredibly powerful. Loosing it is even more powerful.

This is how you get teenagers to submit to being “jumped in”. Being jumped in for males is generally allowing other peer members beat the shit out of you. For women, it is often submitting to being gang raped.

That desire for membership in a peer group, or gang, can be that strong.

The Left and Emotional Blackmail

We are seeing large numbers of leftists resorting to emotional blackmail.

• You are dead to me if you voted for Trump.
• The 4Bs. No sex with men, no children, no dating men, no marriage with men
• Withholding sex until Trump is out of office
• Divorce or threats of divorce
• Excommunicating people from the peer group.
• Dissolving friendships
• Blue “friendship” bracelet. If you don’t have it, you aren’t a friend.

Conclusion

The only way to deal with emotional blackmail is a strong “fuck off, I don’t care.” Yes, that might cost some friends. They might come to their sense later. For now, don’t let them blackmail you.