
This weekend, I was working at the opening of New Hampshire Renaissance Faire. There was very little talk of politics, and people were VERY respectful the couple of times I either said something or walked off. That was nice.
On Sunday afternoon, I ran into the Baroness of my chapter of the SCA, someone who’s been a distant friend for a while. She was with the local SCA group, doing demonstrations and outreach. I found out this is her last year as Baroness, and that she and her husband are stepping down. I get it… it’s a LOT of work. She wanted to know why I hadn’t been around in a while. So I told her.
See, a few years ago (after the pandemic but at least 2 and maybe 3 years ago), friends of mine and my family decided to do their wedding at popular SCA event local to us. It used to be my absolute favorite SCA event, and it was (and is) called Harper’s Retreat. My (at the time 18 or 19 year old) kid kept reminding me I needed to make time to go, so I could be at A and S’s wedding, so I finally went over my calendar, moved a bunch of stuff around, and informed kid that yes, I’d go with them to the wedding. She happily went to inform A and S, and were promptly told that I was MOST DEFINITELY not invited, and to not come. Someone told them I’d supported Trump, and so they wrote me off. They also “disinvited” me to an entire event that is supposed to be open to the whole of the SCA. They put my kid in a shitty position, too, because she had to make a choice of whether to attend their wedding and the event (the only place she sees many of her friends) or supporting me (and let’s be honest, a parent is never going to win in that situation). She went, but she was upset. It was the first time she’d witnessed that sort of thing in person.
I gave a TL;DR version of this to the Baroness, and pointed out that I had reported it to the anti-bullying crowd, but had basically been told that if you’re on the Right, you can’t be bullied. It only works in the other direction. Of course, that isn’t SAID, at least out loud. But it is how things work. Baroness was sad, but understood, and intimated that the unequal application of anti-bullying and other rules within the SCA was one of the reasons she and her hubby were stepping down.
The SCA has had scandals, and I know it’s important for a group to stay out of scandal as much as possible. There have been some really crappy people do some really horrid things, and they needed to be removed (one of our kings murdered his wife and then hid it, and went to be with his girlfriend at a huge SCA event to try and make a plausible alibi). But this has gone way beyond that. If you don’t join in the groupthink, you are ostracized and removed. I was doing needed work in a position that’s ridiculously difficult to fill, and doing it well, and they lost that when they allowed me to be persecuted. They lost an organizer, a writer, a planner, a good leader. Many of the folks I hung out with back in the day are still playing, and they know what happened. They are disappointed in their leadership, but they aren’t willing to walk away to force change.
This is a microcosm of America today. The radical Left has hijacked the government steering wheel somehow. The Right attempts to fix it, gets bullied, ostracized, name called, etc… and then just shrugs and walks away. We don’t have to put up with that kind of treatment. But what it does is leave the Left even more in charge. How do you fight it? There’s no good way to do it.
More and more, I’m understanding why Trump’s grammatically questionable, loud-mouthed rants on X and Truth Social are so important. It isn’t that the Right necessarily embraces the suck (because let’s face it, there are times when Trump shoots himself in the foot right in the midst of things, and it’s frustrating as all get-out). It’s that Trump is willing to be the burr under the saddle, the person who refuses to leave just because the Left is being a bully. He has the cohones to simply let it slide off.
I wish I could be that for the SCA. I can’t, though, for all sorts of reasons. Mostly, I’m just not that kind of person. Unfortunately, there isn’t someone like Trump to save the SCA. People are leaving it, either just stopping historical reenacting entirely, or moving to (or creating) new groups. What’s the point in constantly fighting and then having “the authority” tell you that you’re wrong, over and over again? It’s just not worth it.
I think there’s a lot of people in the middle of our country (both physically and politically) who never get talked to, are ignored, and are quietly wishing ALL the politicians would go away. It’s my strong opinion those are the people we need to convince to either become Conservatives, or to be *good* Democrats. Fetterman comes to mind, of course. We also need them to vote. But why would they, when all they see of either party is in-fighting, poo-slinging, and name calling? It’s depressing.
So I’m not going back to the SCA. I finally decided I’m not even going to the one camping event I continued to enjoy (called Great NorthEastern War). I’ll go to Birka in January, because it’s basically a big market and it’s become less SCA and more “everyone who has a costume” over the years. But I’m pretty much done with the SCA, and I’m watching as scads of people drift away. It’s sad, because it has changed many of our views of actual history. People who started out as SCA larpers ended up as major historians who made amazing discoveries. Seeing it implode makes me want to cry.
But it’s just like watching what’s happening to America. And I don’t want to watch.

the biggest problem I see in politics- when democrats are in charge they use politics to get what they want snd punish everyone who isn’t like them.
when republicans are in charge they claim they will “fix” everything thats broken while in reality republicans let democrats do what they always do.
We the People have let politics infect all aspects of life . and yes, many of us will walk away from liberals because closed minds can’t be helped.
The problem is, when we walk away, they win. All their cocked up ideas go on unchecked.
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A while ago, I told Chris I get upset when people get all down in someone’s face, especially when they’re on the Right, because I expect “my folks” to be better than the other side. That’s always been true, and is a large part of the reason I’m over here instead of over there (waving vaguely Leftish). I still get upset when people take the low road, but I am understanding more WHY they do so. This whole thing just sucks. 🙁
we won’t walk away when it comes to Freedom, example in a minute.. we walk away when there is no way to get them to change…
example- a few years ago a retired marine bought some property in our town. the out of state moonbat next door threw a fit when he hired a forestry professional to get rid of some dead trees. then she had a bigger freak when he started shooting firearms. she went to the town select men(all liberals) and they THOUGHT they could steamroll him and or bankrupt him with leagal fees. We the People got together and went to the meetings. after 3-4 meetings the town talked to a lawyer and when he got done laughing told them they didn’t have a chance. so we won one.
“The problem is, when we walk away, they win.”
They win what? A small victory for a few moments? Maybe the get a law passed, or repaint a street, or some other leftists pipe dream. It is not, nor will it ever be enough for them. Like a toddler who had a fight to get the last chocolate donut, their victory is sweet, but only until while the donut lasted. And, they lost a friend in the process.
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“All their cocked up ideas go on unchecked.”
For a while. The left manipulated the 2020 election in order to install their puppet. And, they immediately tried to install their “cocked up ideas.” By doing so, they exposed how completely clueless and inane their platform really is. (Examples abound) Again, like the children they think and act like, the concept of suffering consequences from their actions never occurs to them.
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You walked away from SCA for your reasons. So did others. Pretty soon, the mean girl’s club that it became will consist of fewer and fewer members, and other organizations will grow. Their ideas do not go unchecked. Enough people stop listening, and stop participating. And, that places the checks on them.
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And, yes, I know that is more and more difficult to do in these times of social media, but I am reminded of a line from the Breakfast Club (I think) where Molly Ringwald says something like “You are nobody in this school!” as if it were an insult. When in reality, the moment a member of the mean girls club walks out the doors after graduation, they too are nobodies. If they can grow up and adapt in adult life, they are fine, if not, they become just another jock that peaked at the State championship game.
I need look no further than the current crop of Dem superstars. NYC and Seattle Mayors, NY Governor, VA Gov and Legislature to know they are really just toddlers in mind and action. They say they are going to tax the billionaires out of existence, and when the billionaires leave, they say “Bye!” Who does that? Queens of the Mean Girl Club do, and toddlers, but I repeat myself.
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When did it start, decades ago, last year, Trump’s first term, I do not know. But, it has been around for some time, and it is not getting better. In my two-bit opinion, not enough people have had to earn enough to be actual, fully realized adults. Not enough have been told no throughout their childhood, and time outs do not work as a punishment. “I do not like doing that, so I will not do it.” is not going to grow a responsible adult. (Sorry, rant…) People who had to do for themselves, and suffer the consequences of their mistakes are not going to kick you out of a group because you don’t vote for the politician they like.
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And, what is the result? We have a group that is actively kicking people out over a politician.