FBEL – Trans and DeTrans
Please note, I didn’t say *anti* trans. I have trans friends who did it right (therapy, slow social transition, deep social transition, then when therapists and docs and friends all agreed that transitioning was the right way to fix this particular mental health problem, a full transition to the desired gender… and now there’s no telling she was once a he, or that he was once a she). I don’t care if a fully formed adult decides to transition, quickly or slowly, so long as they’re paying for it. When women with massive back problems due to their tits weighing so much (an actual physical health issue that’s REAL) can get their breasts reduced on insurance, then we can discuss other “vanity” surgeries. Otherwise, I don’t even want to begin to hear about it.
Oh, I lie. If a group of people get together and start an insurance company that chooses to cater to or otherwise insure trans people, because they WANT to, that’s also fine. Choice is a good thing, and I wouldn’t want to stop someone from doing that if it’s what they want. I just don’t want it thrust upon other people. Oh, and I don’t want to pay for your viagra, either. And stop mutilating little boys; we’re not allowed to cut off girls’ genitals so why is it okay to do it to boys? Just saying.
But I digress.
There are a lot of people who are standing up (and out) as detransitioners right now. While I support the right of an adult to do whatever they want to their own body (yes, *whatever* they want… it’s their body, not mine), at their own cost, the -TQIA++ community (LGB and part of T are not lumped in there, btw) need to back the fuck down and leave detransitioners alone. More importantly, they need to LISTEN to those who’ve chosen to go through the incredibly traumatic process of detransitioning. We all need to listen to them.
There are hundreds of hours of video at this point, of young men and women telling Congress and various courts why transitioning was wrong for them. There’s a lot to listen to. We should ALL be listening to them. Too many of us were taken in by doctors saying that “a trans kid is better than a dead kid.” Even the kids themselves bought in on that line. To listen to these young people talking about what was really going on in their heads during this “transition process” is terrifying. Many of them knew it wouldn’t fix anything. They simply got caught up in the social storm and couldn’t dig their way out.