Allyson

Prepping – When Violence Happens

I was scanning TikTok when Charlie Kirk was shot. One of my conservative ladies gave out the news on an unexpected “live” thingie, and I went looking, panicking. Yep, it’s real. Damn. God damn. God FUCKING damn!

My lizard brain is currently doing shots of imaginary coke right now, hopping itself up to keep me aware of everything going on around me. I keep seeing things out of the corner of my eye and it turns out to be dust motes. I’m trying not to shut myself down right now, but also not to get so caught up that I lose track of life.

Why’s this under “prepping” today? Well, we need to be aware that when violence happens, we tend to REact. And frankly, I don’t believe we (and when I say “we” right now, I mean everyone who isn’t an absolute nut job, regardless of political stance) can afford to react. Act, yes. React, no. Reaction is instant. It’s brought about by the aforementioned lizard brain. It engages our “fight or flight” mode, and if we are reacting, we are not thinking.

When we’re in a personal emergency, that’s a good thing. It gets the adrenaline going, gets you up and moving, and might save your life. But with something like this, it’s just not useful. It hypes us up with nowhere to go. And while I trust the people I generally hang out with to be “head on a swivel” without being nut jobs, I don’t trust everyone else. I know too many on the Left who are excited and happy over this, and too many on the Right who have been itching for an excuse and who are using Kirk’s shooting as that excuse and damn the realities. NONE of it is good. Not one damn motherfucking bit of it.

I have enough EMT training to know that he wasn’t going to survive that shot. He lost so much blood in that initial burst that there was simply no way. The second hint was that his team picked him up and moved him. They don’t do that if there’s a chance he’ll survive; instead they form a shield wall and let the EMT do their work. There are lots of rumors out there (see my previous post on rumors) regarding what happened, who did it, and the reasoning behind the assassination. Like Chris, I’m waiting. I need to hear good, quality information from reliable sources, as difficult as that may be.

I will tell you what I think happened. I think a nutjob (very possibly with a septum ring and ties to the Left, but no guarantees) decided that the First Amendment was not worth protecting, and decided to make Charlie a signpost about what happens to people who don’t lap up the narrative from the Left’s breast. I think it was meant to do a few things. First and foremost, I believe it was meant to enrage the Right and hopefully spur people into doing stupid things (those REactions). Second, it took out someone who was effectively teaching young adults to think for themselves (because Charlie always listened to people and encouraged them to support their points). Third, it has been done in a way that makes it a chilling effect.

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FBEL – Rumors

So everyone occasionally shares a rumor. Most of us catch onto a good one and speculate among ourselves, making sure everyone we talk to understands IT IS A RUMOR. Rumors are not truth, and I suspect that everyone on Vine of Liberty and most conservatives are quite aware of that fact. Liberals in general and Democrats in particular are less sure of this distinction.

Rumors I have heard this week on social media:

  • Trump is dead.
  • Trump is being defeated in the courts.
  • Trump is giving massive tax cuts to the rich and forcing the poor to pay for everything.
  • Able bodied people dumped off of food stamps and other gov’t funded charities will die.
  • Republicans are racist, homophobic (and/or hate gay people), misogynistic, etc.
  • JK Rawlings is a racist, homophobe, etc.
  • Trans people are dying because of Trump’s rules and laws.
  • Gay people are losing their rights.
  • Trans people are losing their rights.
  • People of any ancestry other than “white” are losing their rights.
  • Women are losing their rights.
  • We’re on track to be in an episode of The Handmaid’s Tale.

I could go on, but I know you’ve heard it all before, too. And I could sit here and refute most of the above without even having to look stuff up, but why bother? Even when I present factual, irrefutable proof that their rumors are actually untrue, they continue to believe.

Most of the rumors I hear are bullshit, and I treat them as such. I just skim onward, ignoring them. There’s simply no point in giving them any traction, and there’s no way to weed them out. They’re teflon, because people on the Left have such strong belief that it’s … well, unbelievable.

And then there’s the recent set of rumors (I refuse to call them facts, but I have no other word to use, so we’re going with “rumors”) that Pew has put out. I’m disappointed in them, by the by. I normally consider their stuff to be not too bad, but this really got me.

They did a survey of Americans, asking what their opinions were on the economy, and a variety of economic factors. Now, even red states have a low view of the current economy in certain areas, because we’re recovering from four years of Liberal spending and waste. That’s to be expected. But the headlines that came out of it was stuff like “Economic failure in sight!” and “Trump’s Economy Problem is Threatening his Entire Agenda.”

The Left is all excited that Trump is apparently disliked by most people. They miss that the polls only polled people who would answer a certain way. The outcome is one of opinion, not fact. Someone a few weeks ago was explaining (mansplaining) to me that the economy was shite, that everything was becoming so expensive that it wasn’t affordable to eat, businesses were failing, and the world was going to sink under massive debt. I looked over at the lowest gas prices I’ve seen in years, and the cost (expensive but affordable) of the sushi dinner I had with my partner last week, and how the price of my groceries has dipped by about a third since Trump came into office. I tried to explain that to the person, but was rebuffed. I don’t understand economics, they said. They’re correct that I’m not great with economics, but I know how to make a budget and I know I’m coming in UNDER budget for most things for the first time in years. So… I guess they don’t understand economics either.

Everything presented by the Left lately is based on opinion. Now the Right does that sometimes too, but most of the time the Right manages to rightly label something as opinion. They don’t put opinion out as if it’s fact. They don’t say the economy is bad because people think it’s bad. That is literally what’s happening right now on the Left. They can’t point to facts to show how bad things are going, so they’re polling people who are “proving septum ring theory” and presenting it as fact. By that, I mean that they’re proving that septum ring theory is correct.

I’m tired, folks. I’m worried about a lot of things. I’m worried about vaccines (because I know most vaccines work and I don’t want to see the baby thrown out with the bath water). I’m worried about the economy (because if Vance doesn’t get in for 2028, the economy is going to circle the drain). I’m worried about books in schools (while I don’t see anyone banning any books, I do wish some books were more readily available in schools and I worry that the Karens of the world will spoil school libraries for everyone). I’m worried about the posting of Christian-only religious materials in public schools (because I’ve long held the opinion that either it’s “everyone gets to” or “NO ONE gets to”). I’m worried about the next generation being able to manage the world (because other than the few successful kids I personally know, all I see out there are slackers who think that working more than 7 hours in a day is some kind of abuse, and they’re damn vocal about it). I’m worried that the ideal of personal success is gone. I’m tired, and I’m worried. The rumors don’t help; they make it worse.

The Weekly Feast – Lamb Souvlaki

When I was younger and still living at home, my father would take me out once in a while for dinner. Mom didn’t really cook, and we often had take-out, but dad and I had a special bond at that time. We always went for something mom didn’t like. Something garlicky, or with big sausages, or meat that wasn’t “standard” (ie mom ate beef, chicken, pork, and turkey, and not much else). There was a Greek place he’d take me to once in a long while, and there, I learned to love souvlaki. It’s easy to make, delicious, and relatively healthy (depending on how you make it).

Ingredients for lamb souvlaki:

  • 1.5 to 2 lbs lamb shoulder, boneless, cubed
  • 1 medium red onion, cut in half circles
  • olive oil (for drizzling)
  • juice of one lemon
  • souvlaki seasoning: oregano, thyme, and rosemary, garlic, paprika, cumin
  • salt and pepper to taste

Your lamb should be boneless, though technically you could rub a whole shoulder with the bone in and cook it that way. Trust me and get boneless butterflied leg of lamb. It’s expensive, and entirely worth it. Aldi has it for a reasonable amount. Your cubes should be about an inch across, and all close to the same size so they cook right.

You can buy Aldi brand or other brand souvlaki seasoning, and just sub it in for the dried herbs mentioned above. You want to be heavy handed, which is why I didn’t put amounts in. For 1.5 lbs of lamb, I use about a quarter cup of spice, and I mix all of the souvlaki seasonings mentioned above “about equally.” Salt and pepper I add at the end, and I tend to go lighter (the mixes may have salt and pepper in them, so check before adding those). You want to dump the seasoning on the cubed lamb and slivered half circles of red onion, add in a drizzle of the olive oil and the lemon juice, then get in with both hands and squish it around. Coat everything fairly evenly, but not so thickly that it’s like sawdust. Cover with plastic wrap and stick your meat in the fridge for a minimum of 1 hour, and a maximum of 8.

Make yourself some tzatziki while the meat is marinating.

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Prepping – Saying NO.

We can talk about stocking up on mashed potatoes, learning how to make fires with a flint and steel, or being practiced at sewing our own clothes. They’re all really useful skills. But the one that’s going to get us, every single one of us (and sorry, but those of you who are loud and insistent about how it won’t be you, you’re the first to fall), is the lack of practice with the word “NO.”

But what do you mean, Allyson? We say no all the damn time. We’re great at telling the in-laws to fuck off, and the kids to get out of our hair. Each one of us has told a spouse no about a big household buy. We know how to say no!

The thing is, you don’t. I don’t. None of us do. And we need to get that through our thick, numskull brains. Like… right now.

If the shit ever really and truly hits the fan, “no” is going to be an important word. You’re going to have to say it. More importantly, you’re going to have to know WHEN to say it. And therein lies the problem. How do you determine who is good at what they do, and who is lying? How do you know a raider from a person who might benefit your survival?

There are people who I thought would “for sure” be in my survival group. Then the pandemic hit. Guess what? They’re out. I watched them do risky, stupid things, and in some cases, follow ridiculous orders that had no rhyme or reason. So they’re out. The pandemic changed the landscape of my apocalypse team in huge ways.

Over the last few years, I’ve learned how to say no in a lot of different situations. I’ve always been able to say no to the kids or my life partners, when it’s necessary. No, we don’t have money to buy junk food. No we don’t have any junk food. No, we’re not getting any junk food. No, you may not borrow the car. No, you can’t buy that motorcycle. No. That’s easy.

I’ve also learned how to say no to people on the internet. That one was surprisingly difficult. No, I don’t want to listen to your brand of religion. No, I don’t want to listen to your brand of politics. No, I don’t want to listen to your excuse for not doing any research before reposting that bullshit meme. No, I will not be treated that way by anyone.

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FBEL – Trans and DeTrans

Please note, I didn’t say *anti* trans. I have trans friends who did it right (therapy, slow social transition, deep social transition, then when therapists and docs and friends all agreed that transitioning was the right way to fix this particular mental health problem, a full transition to the desired gender… and now there’s no telling she was once a he, or that he was once a she). I don’t care if a fully formed adult decides to transition, quickly or slowly, so long as they’re paying for it. When women with massive back problems due to their tits weighing so much (an actual physical health issue that’s REAL) can get their breasts reduced on insurance, then we can discuss other “vanity” surgeries. Otherwise, I don’t even want to begin to hear about it.

Oh, I lie. If a group of people get together and start an insurance company that chooses to cater to or otherwise insure trans people, because they WANT to, that’s also fine. Choice is a good thing, and I wouldn’t want to stop someone from doing that if it’s what they want. I just don’t want it thrust upon other people. Oh, and I don’t want to pay for your viagra, either. And stop mutilating little boys; we’re not allowed to cut off girls’ genitals so why is it okay to do it to boys? Just saying.

But I digress.

There are a lot of people who are standing up (and out) as detransitioners right now. While I support the right of an adult to do whatever they want to their own body (yes, *whatever* they want… it’s their body, not mine), at their own cost, the -TQIA++ community (LGB and part of T are not lumped in there, btw) need to back the fuck down and leave detransitioners alone. More importantly, they need to LISTEN to those who’ve chosen to go through the incredibly traumatic process of detransitioning. We all need to listen to them.

There are hundreds of hours of video at this point, of young men and women telling Congress and various courts why transitioning was wrong for them. There’s a lot to listen to. We should ALL be listening to them. Too many of us were taken in by doctors saying that “a trans kid is better than a dead kid.” Even the kids themselves bought in on that line. To listen to these young people talking about what was really going on in their heads during this “transition process” is terrifying. Many of them knew it wouldn’t fix anything. They simply got caught up in the social storm and couldn’t dig their way out.

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The Weekly Feast – Cabbage and Beef Soup

Happy September!!!

We’re doing our best to eat healthy around here, but we also want food that tastes good. I love soup (hubby not so much, but oh well), and with the cooler weather arriving, I plan on making a lot of soups. You can pack a ton of flavor into soup that is almost calorie free, where making the “regular” version of it would blow your diet to smithereens. So soup, here I come! This one tastes sort of like the innards of a lasagna, honestly.

Ingredients:

  • 1 tbsp olive oil
  • 1 large onion (finely chopped)
  • 2 cloves garlic (minced)
  • 1 lb lean ground beef
  • Salt and black pepper (to taste)
  • 14 oz can chopped tomatoes
  • 6 cups shredded cabbage
  • 1 tsp paprika
  • 1 tsp garlic powder
  • 1 tsp onion powder
  • ½ tsp oregano
  • ½ tsp thyme
  • 1 bay leaf
  • 5 cups beef broth
  • Parsley (chopped)

Pre-heat a soup pot to medium-high heat and add the olive oil. Add in the chopped onion and cook for 2-3 minutes until they have slightly softened. Add in the garlic and let it cook for about 30 seconds, or until fragrant. then, add the ground beef, salt, and black pepper. Cook for 7-8 minutes, breaking the meat apart with a spatula.

Add in the chopped tomatoes, shredded cabbage, paprika, garlic, onion powder, oregano, thyme and bay leaf. Mix it all together very well. Pour in the beef broth, stir it, and let it simmer for 25 minutes or so until the cabbage fully cooks. A little longer is okay, as this stuff only tastes better as time goes on.

Season with salt and black pepper to taste. Garnish with parsley before serving.

Notes:

I put shredded cheese on the table to add some fat, because this soup does NOT have a lot of it. I did drain the ground beef before moving on with the recipe. You could add a dollop of cream cheese to this, or some spicy peppers, and it would still be good. If you switched out the tomatoes for one of those 14 oz cans of tomatoes and green chilies you can get in the Mexican aisle, then topped it with tortilla strips, you’d have Mexican tortilla soup. All I know is this stuff was delish, a huge bowl of it is only about 300 calories (if made as written), and maybe not even that much.

Prepping – Do-Something-Itis

One of the ways I go about criticizing a suggested government program or change in law is to simply ask questions of the proponent. Things like, “explain to me in very simple terms why you think this program will work?” And “what evidence is there that this proposed government program or change in law will make things better?” Through a series of questions, I can usually expose the flawed assumptions behind the proposals, peeling back the onion and get to the core rationale of most of these ideas, where an exasperated policymaker throws up their hands and says, “well, Paul, we have to do something.” And there it is.Paul T. Martin

It’s an interesting point of view. I’m watching a local community melt down because the school system screwed up in a big way and is $5mil in the hole. They all want someone to DO SOMETHING!!! Except that there’s very little to do, and it must be done in a very orderly fashion. In other words, they ARE doing something. They’re just not doing it at the speed the people in the community want.

There was a shooting. Now everyone wants guns banned (again) to “stop school shootings.” Except it wasn’t a school shooting, it was a church shooting, and the people calling for disarmament are people who don’t have any skin in the game (ie they have no guns)… and the shooter was part of THEIR community, not ours. But it doesn’t matter, someone has to DO SOMETHING!!!

This happens all around us. People assume that because we have information (true and otherwise) at the tip of our fingers, that a) it’s true, and b) we can act at the same speed as we can research. Both those points are incorrect. Between general lack of knowledge and the influx of deepfakes and AI writing, telling truth from fiction is difficult right now. And we cannot possibly act at the speed at which we’re reading. Not only is it physically impossible, it’s also stupid, because we have to take time to figure out what the right thing is to do.

I often find myself asking, what would they have done in the 15th century? the 18th century? the 40s? the 80s? I ask myself this because there’s this assumption that we now know better than we did in the past (not entirely inaccurate, I might add), but we can only put that into practice if we look at today’s problems as a reflection of the past. For instance, there may be many ways to handle the local school problem(s), and they are REAL problems, but rushing around like chickens with our heads cut off does nothing. The folks that are pausing to regroup, to find out where the mistakes were made, are harkening back to the 40s IMO. What happened? How did it get so bad? What are the three most likely successful paths forward? Of those three, which would the public prefer us to take, and why? THAT is how one moves forward with stuff like this, because “the public” doesn’t have a clue as to how this stuff works. Right now they’re crowing happily over their only competent board member choosing to resign, because “it’ll save them money!” That means the bulk of them don’t know that board members don’t get paid. That’s … a good example of why the current mess happened.

“Those who forget their history are condemned to repeat it.” This quotation is often attributed to the philosopher George Santayana, but it’s actually a misquotation. The actual quote is, “Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.” The misquote assumes people learned the history in the first place. In today’s world, I suspect it’s assumed people didn’t learn history, or at least not truthful, accurate history.

What can people do when things like this happen? When a community melts down over something (real or imagined) there really isn’t much to do. You can throw your two cents in, but unless you’ve got special traction, it’ll likely fall on deaf ears. What you can do is hunker down, check your perimeter, and keep your head on a swivel. If you’ve got kids in the mix, move ’em somewhere else. Yes, that might mean schooling them at home (though at least in NH, that doesn’t mean you’re on your own, because VLACS is pretty bad ass, and I’m sure that other states have similar programs). It might mean tough times. Guess what? That’s life.

And therein is the difference between “them” and “us.” They will cry and scream and have temper tantrums, lay blame, point fingers… and do nothing. We will go in with possible solutions, and if the public solution doesn’t work, we’ll move on to the private one where we take care of our own. It doesn’t matter if it’s tough. It doesn’t matter if it strains us. We’ll do what’s right by ourselves and our kids, BECAUSE it’s right. And that’s enough to motivate us.

FBEL – Tech and Kids (and Adults)

Found on the book of faces:

There is a silent tragedy unfolding in our homes today, and it concerns our most precious jewels: our children. Our children are in a devastating emotional state!. Over the past 15 years, researchers have gifted us increasingly alarming statistics about an acute and steady increase in childhood mental illness that is now reaching epidemic proportions:
The statistics don’t lie:
  • 1 in 5 children has mental health problems
  • A 43% increase in ADHD has been noticed
  • A 37% increase in teenage depression has been noticed
  • A 200% increase in the suicide rate in children aged 10 to 14 has been noticed
What is going on and what are we doing wrong? Children today are being over-stimulated and over-gifted with material objects, but are deprived of the fundamentals of a healthy childhood, such as:
  • Emotionally available parents
  • Clearly Defined Boundaries
  • Responsibilities
  • Balanced nutrition and adequate sleep
  • Movement in general but especially outdoors
  • Creative play, social interaction, unstructured play opportunities and spaces for boredom
On the other hand, these last few years have been filled with children of:
  • Digitally Distracted Parents
  • Forgiving and permissive parents who let children “rule the world” and be the ones who make the rules
  • A sense of entitlement, of deserving everything without earning it or being responsible for getting it
  • Poor sleep and unbalanced nutrition
  • A sedentary lifestyle
  • Endless stimulation, technological nannies, instant gratification and absence of dull moments
What to do? If we want our children to be happy and healthy individuals, we need to wake up and get back to the basics. It’s still possible! Many families see immediate improvement after weeks of implementing the following recommendations:
  • Set limits and remember that you are the captain of the ship. Your kids will feel safer knowing you have the control of the helm.
  • Offer children a balanced lifestyle full of what children NEED, not just what they WANT. Don’t be afraid to say “no” to your kids if what they want isn’t what they need.
  • Provide nutritious food and limit junk food.
  • Spend at least one hour a day outdoors doing activities such as: cycling, hiking, fishing, bird/insect watching
  • Enjoy a daily family dinner without smartphones or technology distracting them.
  • Play board games as a family or if the children are too young for board games, let them lead their interests and let them be the ones who rule the game
  • Involve your children in some task or household chores according to their age (folding clothes, sorting toys, hanging clothes, unpacking groceries, setting the table, feeding the dog, etc. )
  • Implement a consistent sleep routine to ensure your child gets enough sleep. The timetables will be even more important for school-age children.
  • Teach responsibility and independence. Don’t overprotect them against any frustration or any mistake. Making mistakes will help you develop resilience and learn to overcome life’s challenges,
  • Do not carry your children’s backpack, do not take their backpacks, do not take them the homework they forgot, do not peel their bananas or oranges if they can do it by themselves (4-5 years). Instead of giving them the fish, teach them how to fish.
  • Teach them to wait and delay gratification.
  • Provide opportunities for “boredom”, because boredom is the moment when creativity awakens. Doesn’t feel responsible for always keeping the kids entertained.
  • Do not use technology as a cure for boredom, nor offer it to the first second of inactivity.
  • Avoid the use of technology during meals, in cars, restaurants, shopping centers. Use these moments as opportunities to socialize by training the brains to know how to function when they are in the mood: “boredom”
  • Help them create a “jar of boredom” with activity ideas for when they are bored.
  • Be emotionally available to connect with children and teach them self-regulation and social skills:
  • Turn off phones at night when kids have to go to bed to avoid digital distraction.
  • Become an emotional regulator or coach for your children. Teach them to acknowledge and manage their own frustrations and anger.
  • Teach them to greet, to take turns, to share without anything, to say thank you and please, to acknowledge the mistake and apologize (don’t force them), be a model of all those values you instill.
  • Connect emotionally – smile, hug, kiss, tickle, read, dance, jump, play or crawl with them.
The original article can be found on SchoolSpeak (it’s a PDF).

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Tuesday Tunes – The House of the Rising Sun

… but not as you usually hear it.

Sorry this is kind of short, but I’m pinch hitting for Chris tonight. He’s having network issues and so asked me to share a Tuesday tunes with you guys. This is a group/person that I have been listening to for a while and she does what’s called Bard core music. She takes modern tunes and turns them into medieval ones. I adore them and think they’re hysterical and usually really good. And this is the one that I was listening to when he asked me to post for him and so I am sharing with you. I hope you enjoy!

The Weekly Feast – Tofu Wraps

I realize not everyone likes tofu, but let’s face facts: it’s cheap, it’s relatively healthy, and you can cook it in a zillion different ways. I’m in the process of learning how to use it for more meals, and so I’m going to share some of those recipes (the good ones) with you. This one in particular was so yummy that even my tofu-hater was willing to have it again!

Ingredients:

  • block firm tofu, drained
  • ¼ cup soy sauce
  • 1 tbsp dark brown sugar*
  • 2 tbsp unseasoned rice vinegar
  • 1 tsp toasted sesame oil
  • 1 tsp red pepper flakes
  • 1 tsp fish sauce (optional)
  • 2 tbsp cooking oil
  • 1 tbsp ginger, minced
  • 2 cloves garlic, minced
  • lime juice, for seasoning
  • wraps or pitas, for stuffing

Start by wrapping up your tofu in a lint free towel or cheesecloth, and putting it onto a cutting board. Place a cast iron skillet or a baking sheet weighed down with something heavy on top on top of the tofu, and let it drain for at least 15 minutes, or as long as 45 minutes. Don’t skip this, as it helps with the texture of the tofu.

Crumble the pressed tofu into a bowl using your fingers. You want small pieces, with none larger than a pea.

In a separate bowl, whisk together the soy sauce, sugar (*you can use Splenda brown sugar blend or any other sweetener you prefer if you don’t like the regular stuff), vinegar, sesame oil, red pepper, and fish sauce (or if you don’t like fish sauce, you may sub in Worcestershire sauce or mushroom ketchup for umami). The sugar may not fully dissolve, and that’s okay. It will once you begin heating it later in the recipe. Do your best!

In a large cast iron skillet or other nonstick pan, heat the cooking oil over a medium high heat. Add in the tofu, shake it to make an even single layer, and let it cook without stirring until it crisps up and is deep golden brown on the bottom. This can take 5 to 7 minutes. It’s okay to peek to see how it’s doing, but don’t stir it up until it forms that crispy bottom. Once it’s crisp, stir it up (breaking it up if necessary), and try to flip over the pieces to crisp the other side. You want the entire batch of tofu to be crispy, which requires you to let it sit and cook in the oil. It shouldn’t take too long, though.

Once the tofu is crispy, add in the ginger and garlic and stir gently until fragrant. This should take a minute or less. Add in the soy mixture, and continue to cook until the liquid essentially evaporates. This may take up to 10 minutes, but more likely will only take 5 minutes or so.

Spoon the tofu into the wraps or pitas, and add any garnishes you like (such as cilantro leaves, shredded lettuce, tomato, hot sauce, etc.). Top with a light squeeze of lime, then serve.

Notes:

The spicy hot mixes so well with the sweet in this! Too often, tofu is served squishy, and this avoids that problem. If you find that you can’t get a good crisp on the tofu crumbles, you can try dusting it all with a teaspoon or so of cornstarch and then just hand mixing it lightly before frying it. The cornstarch helps it crisp, but also adds to the calories, so avoid it if you can.