@notmelissavitelliKeep melting down
This couple is part of the reason I found the LGB community on the Right. The lady in the back is the Trump person, and the one talking in front is her wife. Her wife did not vote for Trump. Her wife, however, is not an idiot.
The reason I’m posting this because this is how it’s supposed to work. You can vote differently, think differently, even have different values (to a point), and still be loving partners. For a very long time, I did not back anything Right… and my partner still loved me. I still loved him. Now I have one partner who’s very Right, and one who’s moderately Left, and I love them both. It helps me hear outside my echo chamber, among other things, and it also makes it very clear to me that we often have the same goal but with different ideas on how to achieve them.
Those who’ve chosen to end relationships over Trump winning are also choosing to enact the stupid Handmaid’s Tale stuff. They’re feeding right into it. They are training themselves to REact rather than to act. I find it difficult to watch. I also find it rather disgusting to watch women cut off their hair or say they’re going to purposefully gain weight “to be unattractive to men.” Excuse me, but there are women out there who have lost their hair because of disease, who have no choice of the matter, and they are still beautiful. There are women who are fat and they are beautiful. I’m fat, and I’m beautiful. 🙂 Those women who are doing the 4B movement are just douches. It’s horrendous, and so against every single thing the Left purports to be for.
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FWIW … We just had a grad student decline a postdoc position (that they had previously accepted) because Trump won and they didn’t want to come to the US.
This is what the person had described as a “dream position” when we spoke in late October. I think this person will have a good career … but they deliberately tossed an outstanding opportunity with a fantastic research group (not my group, my team is adjacent and collaborates with them) because of politics.
Their choice … But it seems like cutting off one’s nose to spite ones face, as Mom B used to say.
I think the take-away from this is that, while I think those people are all bonkers, I support their right to do it. So long as they aren’t doing shitty stuff to anyone else, they’re welcome to cut their hair, get their cult tattoos, leave their husbands, give up dream jobs…
The Right supports their right to do those things. The Left doesn’t support anything that isn’t party line. It’s distressing.
Distressing, and also telling to those who notice that little asymmetry.
Compatibility in a relationship is vital. However, that does not mean every aspect of the relationship must move in lockstep. As long as the people in the relationship can deal with a difference of opinion, they are good.
When something like politics becomes an integral part of your very being, that is when problems happen. How many people really care that 4B is happening, or there are a lot more shaved heads??? HINT: No one. Sure, you got a bunch of social media likes, but those people are meaningless to you.
Finally, all of this is proof positive that the media IS the enemy. It is nothing but headlines whipping people into a frenzy. Trump is going to [fill in the blank for whatever terrible thing you are afraid of]. But, no one ever asks how, exactly, he will do that? But, they read it on the Book of Face, so it must be true.
Fun fact: Despite the 15 years Mrs. Bee and I have been together, I only have a general idea of what her politics are. We talk about local initiatives and relevant state initiatives come election time, but just the technical aspects.
The differences just aren’t that important to us.